Religion Dispatches just published an article on the inclusion (or lack their-of) of the Transgender community with Christians as well as gay rights groups, written by author Becky Garrison, in which I was quoted.
There was one quick sentence that the reporter Heather Sells said in the segment that was quite profound:
“It may take years to understand Marin’s impact on the Church and the LGBT community”
How true that statement actually is. In today’s on-demand culture there is an expectation of the immediate. People can immediately get news in real time on Twitter before it actually airs on TV. People can immediately voice their opinions on blogs in the exact moment of reading something. We can call, email, etc from anywhere at anytime. Hyper-connected, I think, is the official geeky term for our lives today.
The operation of the Church has fallen into these exact same negative cultural patterns. These days churches are working off of a success or failure model. But what is success? How do you define it? Numbers? Programs? People ‘saved’ by praying a prayer? No matter what someone believes is the correct definition, it’s all relative.
And none of it carries any weight in my book anyway.
Here are some thoughts on Success and Failure when it comes to Christianity and building bridges between the Church and the LGBT community:
Faithful commitment is Success
What if a LGBT person never agrees with a conservative interpretation of Scripture? What if they accept Jesus Christ and then pronounce they are a gay Christian? What if they say they hear God clearly tell them that living in a same-sex, committed and monogamous relationship is a blessed, God-ordained way of life? From a conservative perspective,
Have you not done your job?
Did you fail?
Are you not fulfilling even the most baseline of Christian standards?
The answer is that a faithful commitment to God is a success no matter what the outcome. Proverbs 16:3 says: “Commit tot he Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.” The more accurate translation of Proverbs 16:3 is, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do and your plans will be established“.
Success in God’s eyes is completely different from our modern understanding of the term.
The fallout from this incorrect alignment leads to a creation of false expectations for ourselves in comparison to God’s biblical promises. There are two main Kingdom differences between establishing and succeeding:
Establishing is rooting your motives and actions in God’s unknown process.
Succeeding is beating the competition with perceived outcomes that the mainstream (whether secular or religious) deems worthy.
Establishing is the spiritual understanding that there is personal contentment in faithful commitment. This is not an excuse to be lazy but it is the Kingdom parallel to the flesh’s second version of succeeding -
Succeeding is having contentment in knowing the outcome.
Both the Church and the LGBT community set themselves up for this disconnect because we use a model of Success vs. Failure – a model created with the rise of an ‘advanced’ Western mindset of philosophy, evolution and business. Each of those cultural metrics have since led us further from Christ’s metric of success. Hence the reason LGBT activist groups and religous right activist groups won’t be caught dead longing to establish anything with the other – because they both are trying too hard to ’win’ the battle to see anything else.
The point of faith is not to beat up and conquer every other people group/belief system so we come out the ultimate winners. The point of faith is to establish Kingdom, here on earth as it is in Heaven, no matter what the outcome.
So do I know the outcome of what this bridge building work will look like in 40 years? Not that I know of. But 40 years down the road isn’t the point, and it’s not even in my remote focus. The point is to faithfully live out each day in relation to and relationship with those in my life, no matter what the outcome turns out to be four decades from now.
Faithful commitment is success. We will stop failing when we stop trying to succeed and start establishing Kingdom.
Those who don’t like and/or agree with you will always be actively looking for ways to ‘expose’ what they think you are. Matthew 26:59
One statement can be interpreted one way by someone and the exact same statement can be interpreted in another way by someone else. Thus, know in yourself that what you say and do is right and true, and there will be nothing to worry about before God. Matthew 26:60b-66
Those in opposition of you will always keep baiting you through taunts and sarcastic insults. Stay calm and know the Lord is with you. Matthew 26:67-68
Don’t forget tonight’s (August 31st) Living in the Tension Gathering starting at 7pm at 5255 N. Ashland Ave, Room 120.
Tonight we will be talking about Handling Criticism. I’m seriously looking forward to seeing how everyone else does it, because God knows I’m terrible at it.
I was reading the Bible this morning in the book of Mark doing my One Sentence Bible (I always read ahead of what I post on the blog) and I came across the following: “And if you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that God in Heaven may forgive you your sins.” [...]
What is My One Sentence Bible? 8-31-10: Prayer is difficult and tiring. There’s no way around it. Matthew 26:40-45 Those whose work is of peaceful reconciliation will be opposed by mobs circling them with weapons. Matthew 26:47, 55 Fear of the unknown can overtake even the best intentioned people who have your back. Matthew 26:56 [...]
Yes! Our current website hasn’t been updated in about 2 years…why we’ve pretty much been using this blog as The Marin Foundation organizational website as well. The reason? Our current TMF website is HTML and none of us know anything about that. So we’re working with McLane Creative to come up with a new, fresh and totally awesome [...]
This is a Skype interview I did with Charles Lee, who gets his hustle on more than anyone I know! He did this interview as a lead-up to an event of his I’m speaking at the end of next month. If you’ve heard me tell my story, just skip to 2:22 in the video where [...]
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Validation vs. Affirmation: There are some who are very upset about my understanding of validation and affirmation. Here is a more in-depth explanation. I find these critiques strange because many people in both communities love, and I mean love to talk about being ‘inclusive’ or ‘focused on outreach’. What that actually means these days is that inclusive people or [...]